Whether it’s through a text message, a phone call or an in-person meeting, this article will teach you to get your ex to not only get in contact with you, but leave them wanting more.
The hardest part of a breakup is the silent treatment; your ex may be so hurt or confused that they are unlikely to want to talk to you. Keep reading if you want to learn tricks and tips to get them to stop ignoring you and reach out.
If you feel that your ex is purposefully ignoring you, there may be an explanation. Perhaps you came on a bit too strong, or they are simply in pain. Perhaps your relationship carried with it too many fights, or struggles for control; they may have simply moved on already, which can be a painful realization.
Generally speaking, for any relationship to thrive, there needs to be a balance. A dance of sorts, including back and forth steps that allow each partner to lead at different times. For instance, if you recognize that you were a bit too intense in your relationship, the best thing to do now is to initiate a cooling period. Don’t contact your ex right after the breakup, giving them space to miss you.
Try to put your best face on when attending parties or going out, making sure you are radiant and charming, should you happen to run into your ex. Show them how strong and happy you are, and what a good time you have. You might even throw a party and invite some mutual friends that you and your ex shared; hearing from their friends how much fun you’ve been having might spark a little interest, after all.
When you’ve given the situation some space to cool off, it may be time to try talking to your ex. Be polite, friendly, and try engaging them in a subject that you know they like. See if you can pick some hobbies that you both share to talk about, or a new movie or album.
Patience is key here. Don’t expect your ex to come running back into your arms immediately. Don’t overdo it with contact. Ease into the conversations, and try not to let your expectations become too high. There is likely still pain and hurt in your ex’s heart. Begin talking to them gradually, and don’t move too fast.
It may be nerve racking to try contacting your ex, especially with so many leftover feelings hovering in the air. Try initiating the conversation with something topical that applies to them, such as “I ran into so and so the other day, and it made me think of that time we…”
If they continue the conversation or seem keen to talk, they may be more open to the idea of getting back together than you think. This is the point where you should be relaxed and patient, and just see where things go.
If they are not up for talking, or ignore you altogether, it might be best to take this opportunity to move on and try to heal from this breakup. Sometimes we want something that simply can’t be forced, and it’s not easy to move on from that. But, as the saying goes, “If it’s meant to be, it will be.”
Relax, have faith and try to know when to let go.
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